Believing Lies

Believing lies

Believing lies

Several years ago I tried doing one of my husband’s chores. I failed. I didn’t have strong enough muscles to even start. Because of that, I didn’t try. When he mentioned me helping, I told him I couldn’t. I wasn’t strong enough. I believed it wasn’t possible. It kept me from trying. Fast forward a few years and my husband realized when he did that job, a migraine followed.

What chore? Mowing the yard. I couldn’t start the lawn mower, so I didn’t try. My husband enjoys doing yard work, so it wasn’t a concern of mine. Until the migraines came. Masks didn’t work. The kids and I decided it was time to step in and help. But I still waited. Until the weeds were almost knee high, I put it off. The day came when I couldn’t stand the weeds anymore. I decided it was time to try. Without any problems, I started the mower. I’m not gonna lie, it was a physically demanding task. I had to cry out to Jesus a few times for endurance. In my exhausted state, I heard him speak words of encouragement and wisdom

What other lies are holding me back?

Truth is, I’m a lot stronger than I give myself credit for. I could’ve been helping all this time, but a lie held me captive to inaction. I’m not as strong (physically) as I would like to be, but there’s a gap between reality and the image I hold in my head. Sometimes that gap puts me in an worse situation, like that time I didn’t think I could homeschool high school so we joined a co op… and everyone got burnt out. Or the time I asked my husband to help the kids with math because I couldn’t do it, only to realize I DID know the answers? What other areas am I shortchanging myself?

Weeds creep with lies

The noticeable weeds – the ones almost knee high – are easy to spot. But as I walked the yard, I noticed how much other weeds had taken over. I remembered the last time we were out shopping that my husband mentioned needing weed and feed. Once I looked closer, I was a bit shocked at the overgrowth. They had taken over! When we don’t catch the small issues, they creep in and overtake our heart. Just like the weeds.


When I look over my yard, I feel proud. That feeling alone makes the physical effort worth it. What feels even better is that it still looks great, even after several days! Not like the house…

What task have you put off because you don’t think you can do it? Why not try? Getting out the lawn mower and trying cost me nothing, but it gave me so much! I learned some truths about myself and blessed my husband. Maybe I’ll tackle the gardens next. Or maybe Algebra…

Written by Kimberly Vogel of the Thinking and Learning Center and Kimberly A. Vogel

Homeschooling at Your Pace

When I started homeschooling, I created a picture in my head of what it would be like. Reality hit, and it looked nothing like what I envisioned. As with many stages in our lives, and especially our parenting, we develop an idealized or generalized view of what we want things to look like and how we want things to progress. When things don’t move or develop as we think they should, letting go of that mindset is difficult and sometimes we internalize it as failure. This is doubly hard when it involves homeschooling.

The pace of the World

If we follow the patterns of this world, students move through a grade a year at the pace of a lesson a day, the same as their peers and things flow from one subject to the next. Even homeschool curriculums suggest moving in that manner, and ideally, that’s the goal. However, our children often do not learn at that pace. Some students move faster through material, and others move slower. Some days things click, while other days nothing seems to make sense. We often forget the importance of allowing children to lead the way in their learning as our lesson plans rule the day.

The pace of other homeschool families

Different educational philosophies emphasize particular aspects of education. For example, Classical education follows a specific procedure with memorization stressed in elementary levels and logic playing a big role in secondary years. Charlotte Mason focuses on living books while some methodologies prefer textbook learning. There are also methods with a relaxed framework, such as self-directed and unschooling. If you find what works for your family, stick to it and listen to that voice. Looking at what works for others and holding yourself to their standard is not an accurate measure. Find your path and hold to it, measuring each child independently and not looking at others will safeguard against a failure mindset.

The pace of our children

Taking our children where they are and guiding them at their pace is a balancing act. There is anHomeschool at your pace can be a challenge. The world tells us we need to school at home one way while our faith and heart tells us another. educational practice called the Zone of Proximal Development. (read more about this along with tips to implement it). Basically, it states that students move from what they know to what they don’t know through an area (zone) of what they can know with guidance. This is an important zone for those of us with a struggling learner. They need our guidance and need to go at their pace, staying in their zone. It’s important to recognize when there are significant challenges, such as a learning disability, and know when to seek help. Sometimes the guide needs to be a tutor or therapist, in addition to the parent.

In our homeschool journey, we have the gift of being able to see our child where they are and guiding them through a very individualized journey in their education, which results in greater success, even when the world doesn’t see it that way. Look to God first, then your children to develop the pace that works best for them without looking at the world or other homeschool families.

By Kimberly Vogel of the Thinking and Learning Center